John Mayer and Jessica Simpson’s toxic relationship is being re-analyzed after another of Mayer’s exes appeared to take aim at him in recent weeks.
Taylor Swift, who briefly dated Mayer in 2009, once again probed their big age gap in “Could’ve, Would’ve, Should’ve,” a track from her latest album “Midnights.”
Now, fans are taking a look at Mayer’s alleged history of toxic behavior in relationships and what Simpson revealed about dating him.
What happened between Jessica Simpson and John Mayer?
Mayer and Simpson dated between 2006 and 2010, but the drama surrounding their split lasted much longer.
Simpson has since called out Mayer, in his 2020 memoir “Open Book,” and revealed how he allegedly abused her during their relationship.
Simpson says dating Mayer made her insecure.
A year after her divorce from ex-husband Nick Lachey in 2005, Simpson began dating Mayer.
Initially, Simpson revealed in her memoir that she “fell in love with his intensity”, later adding, “over and over he told me he was obsessed with me, sexually and emotionally”.
That passion and intensity quickly turned into insecurity, Simpson explained in a 2020 interview that she, “constantly worried that she wasn’t smart enough for him. »
“We were good at loving each other. It was easy, but the relationship was very complex…I went back almost 9 times.
Simpson says she turned to alcohol and drugs while dating Mayer.
In his memoir, Simpson said: “[Mayer] was so smart and treated the conversation like a friendly competition that he had to win.
She also revealed that her rocky relationship with Mayer sparked her spiral into alcohol and drug addiction – the anxiety and insecurity in their relationship led Simpson to start “relying on alcohol to mask [her] nerves. »
Simpson claimed that Mayer broke off her relationship with Tony Romo.
After months of “on and off” dating, Simpson and Mayer broke things off again, and Simpson began a new relationship with NFL star Tony Romo in 2007.
According to her book, Mayer made several attempts to get in touch with Simpson via email and text during her new relationship.
According to Page Six, Simpson had a “full disclosure” agreement with Romo, where “if John texted or emailed, I would hold my phone and tell Tony immediately.”
Even after Mayer and Simpson broke things off, Simpson revealed that Mayer stayed in close contact with many of her family members during her relationship with Romo.
At a family event where Mayer was present, he reportedly confessed his continued love for her.
Simpson recalls, “He got up and told all of us that he loved me and that we could all trust him to be a good man. I told him I would always love him, but I was with Tony. But I didn’t tell Tony. I broke my own rule of full disclosure of my contact, however accidental, with John”.
Weeks after Mayer’s confession, Romo confronted Simpson about new messages from Mayer and broke things off due to suspicions of cheating.
Mayer’s attachment to Simpson and his “addictive” relationship eventually ended Simpson and Romo’s relationship, even under false suspicions of cheating.
She returned with Mayer shortly after this separation.
Mayer’s interview with ‘Playboy’ ended their relationship for good.
The couple eventually separated in 2010, following the uproar of Mayer’s 2010 Playboy interview, where he called his relationship with Simpson “an addiction… to sexual napalm.”
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Her memoirs detail the hurt and “embarrassment” after reading comments Mayer had made about her and their relationship.
“He was the most loyal person on the planet and when I read he wasn’t, that was it for me. I erased his number,” she wrote.
Along with her recap of their relationship, she gives more details about her addictions and recovery.
In 2020, Mayer told Andy Cohen in an interview that he had not read the memoir and “probably won’t.”
Simpson has now been married to her current husband, soccer player Eric Johnson, since 2014, and the two share three children together.
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